For many divorcees, the next logical step is dating again — but it isn’t always easy.Think nothing could be more stressful than going through divorce? Try dating after a split, which can be a major source of anxiety for recently-separated singles. Navigating the dating scene after divorce does involve getting out of your comfort zone — but it doesn’t have to be stressful, if you’re able to embrace a healthy mindset and follow a few basic dating rules.
It’s possible that you’re not sure about a second date because of a lack of chemistry. Without suggesting that chemistry is possible with just anyone, there’s no reason to limit second-date-candidates to people with whom you feel instant chemistry. For one thing, chemistry isn’t always immediate. It can develop over time, or even kick in unexpectedly as emotional intimacy is established. Plus, chemistry has its pros and cons. Once it kicks in (especially in the early stages) it can be all consuming, to the point of making“thinking clearly” more difficult.
You should only date someone who is much more attractive than you if you have a good, healthy ego — you like yourself, believe you’re attractive enough, don’t place much importance on physical appearance, don’t get paranoid or jealous, and believe you are a great package with many positive characteristics.